Category Archives for "Life Coaching"

Jan 09

Something new

By Angela Brophy | Career Coaching , Life Coaching , Personal Developement

Stop for a moment and think about this: there are approximately 6.5 billion people in the world today. That’s a lot of people! And the fact is, there is only one of you, just one amazing, unique individual! So no one else looks like you, sounds like you or thinks like you. Every day that you wake up, you have the opportunity to give the world something new, exciting and very unique. Your perspective on the world! What do I mean by that? Well if you are unique, then your ideas and thoughts are unique too. You look at the world in a different way and you have your own distinct opinions and beliefs.

When someone comes to us as coaches to help them to change their world, it is our opportunity and honour to be allowed into their personal world. Because we are all so different, we can use our uniqueness to come up with questions and scenarios to put to our clients. This allows us to encourage our clients to go deep within themselves to find something new: a new idea, a new concept, a new way of looking at a problem, a new way of challenging their beliefs, and new ways to move forward.

Something new doesn’t always have to involve throwing away the old. It can simply be looking at it from a different angle. Turn the negative view into a positive one, alter a thought slightly, question tolerations, question your path, and look at life from another viewpoint. Doing this can have an amazingly powerful effect on a client. They realise that the answer has been there all the time, covered by life!

I had an example of this recently. I had 2 clients who were on the “road to disaster”, as they put it. They were in business for over 20 years and married for just as long. Their business was going downhill fast, as they had borrowed too much, expanded too quickly and the pressure was driving a wedge between them. They thought it was time to throw in the towel, they thought they both wanted different things but decided to explore it all through coaching first. They wanted to move forward, they were stuck and this was their last chance.

I met them separately over a couple of months. This was a new experience for me; I’d never worked with a couple before. This was also a new experience for them. They’d never shared their thoughts or worries with anyone else before.

But a wonderful thing happened.


By separating and speaking to me I was able to see that they had just stopped being a couple; they had become business partners, colleagues, acquaintances almost. They had stopped sharing their thoughts, their ambitions, their values, their beliefs… They had stopped communicating on a deeper level. And though this was very sad, it was also transformational. I was able to see that they actually had the same worries, the same ambition, the same drive, and that they both missed each other.

So I tried something new. I asked each of them if we could have a joint session and if I could share what I’d seen and heard from both meetings, they agreed and we met.

How they laughed! It was like the air had been let out of a balloon full of stress. They realised that they were both actually on the same track, shared the same mindset and were desperate to be the couple they once were. So a lovely thing happened. They started to talk to each other, they shared the stress, so it reduced. They shared the workload, so that reduced. They realised that they both had talents that they weren’t using. He was great at managing money. She was a powerful people manager. So they started using these skills, put a new plan in place, and the business is now on the road to recovery. It’s slow and it’s not easy but by both bringing something new to the table, they realise that there is a way forward after all.

By going outside my comfort zone and trying something new, I too gained from that experience. I can do more than I thought. Coaching never fails to amaze me; and people really do have all the answers within themselves.

So, go and try something new this month, bet you’ll surprise yourself too!

Angela Brophy

Dec 05

How to Survive Christmas in 10 Easy Steps

By Angela Brophy | Life Coaching , Personal Developement

I can’t believe it’s started already, the Countdown to Christmas! It’s 3 weeks to the Big Day! Tensions are starting to rise, panic is setting in: will I be ready, presents to buy, cards to write, food to organise and oh no, the relatives to invite!

OK. Stop right there!

It doesn’t have to be so stressful this year, you can do this and remain calm, relaxed and enjoy the whole event. So apart from making sure the kids are happy and entertained, you say how? Well read on.

  1. Create your Lists. I’m a huge believer in having a list for everything, then you don’t forget what you need to do or buy, and best of all you get to cross off each thing as it’s done! So make a list for things like presents, food shopping, who will be coming for dinner, and one for the entertainment.
  2. Think about what you are going to wear, not just for Christmas dinner but for all those lovely work nights out or drinks with your friends.
  3. If you are cooking Christmas Dinner for the first time, then all you need to know is on for a quick cookery lesson, and you will soon cook like a Pro!
  4. You might want to have your own Advent Calendar and use it as a planner, for example: 20th Dec: Make sure all the gifts are wrapped. 21st Dec: Drinks with the girls 22nd Dec: Tidy the house for guests, etc. You see what I mean, make it fun and exciting!
  5. Time to think about who will be there on the day, who will sit next to each other,… Best to avoid putting anyone that doesn’t get on next to each other. You only want the turkey to get roasted that day!
  6. Think of a few party games that will help everyone to relax (don’t forget that they could be feeling anxious about Christmas Dinner too) such as Christmas Carol Charades, Two Truths and a Lie, Decorate a person as a Christmas Tree or the old favourite, Monopoly.
  7. For those of you who are on your own this year, it’s time to book a Christmas Party night at one of the local hotels. You will have a great time and maybe make new friends.
  8. For some people Christmas will be a lonely time, bringing back memories of those they’ve lost, be kind to yourself, plan something nice like a Spa day or a meal with a good friend. It’s ok to feel sad but make sure you speak to someone about it, don’t be alone!
  9. On the day, if it gets too much for you then take time out for 5 minutes, take a deep breath, think about all the good things in your life and walk back in refreshed!
  10. And finally, remember it’s just one day, like any other of the 365 days each year. The sun will rise and set, you will get through it and will say something like “next year I’ll be more organised”. But you know what? You’ll probably do the same again next time but so what! It’s Christmas, and all will be well! Enjoy being with your family and friends and relax!

Happy Christmas everyone!!
If you want to get some help with meeting your Christmas goals or any other goals in your life, then feel free to contact me at and we can chat.
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Apr 12

Coaching… what’s all the fuss about???

By Angela Brophy | Career Coaching , Executive Coaching , Life Coaching , Personal Developement

The ICF (International Coaching Federation) Definition of Coaching is ‘partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Ref: ICF Website. In my opinion this sums it up perfectly, as it is a process of change that helps a person to become the best version of themselves that they can be. It's done in such a beautiful creative way by helping them to reach inside themselves and discover the answers that have always been there but have been buried by life. In the following paragraphs I will take you on a journey through the world of coaching, looking at some of the main areas of curiosity about coaching today and leave you with an understanding of the benefits of Coaching.

To fully understand its success we must first ask what is Coaching and what does it do for you? In today’s hectic world, everyone seeks to gain a little bit of space and time for themselves to make sense of it all. Sometimes that’s difficult for many different reasons, such as work pressure, family demands, friends, external commitments etc. Life gets in the way of finding me time. So that when a person needs to make a big decision or decide where they are headed in life, or to just simply find themselves, they often turn to Coaching.

So first of all, what has caused the growth in demand for Coaching? The world is now moving at such a fast pace that it has the effect of leaving some people feeling lost and unable to keep up. This can be for various reasons as mentioned above and Life Coaching is the key to unlocking their potential and a way of helping them find their way in the world. This is done by allowing them to see where they are right now, what their strengths and abilities are and to use those to achieve their personal goals. No other therapy allows an individual to take control in this way, it is empowering for them.

The world has always been a place of change and unrest but never more so than today. As technology and science progress, the world is racing at an incredible speed towards new and wonderful inventions and discoveries. This has fuelled the need for profit and growth in companies. This has subsequently put pressure on people to perform to ever increasing standards at work. People are like passengers on this incredible journey but it’s not an easy journey for them. The pressures and pace are taking their toll on the human race in general. People are feeling pressure to be everything to everyone and to be the ‘perfect mum, wife, brother, son, employee. There is an expectation on people to have all the answers, to live a 24/7 lifestyle and to be nothing but successful at everything they do. Due to social media their success and failure is lived in the public eye. This is a huge ask and people are struggling. So this is where coaching has come to the rescue and as the word grows of its success in helping people find answers, the demand for coaching is increasing day by day.

So why choose Coaching as a solution, instead of looking at the other options available. Coaching is not about finding someone to solve your problems, as I’ve mentioned above but it is about a person finding answers themselves. People who undertake Coaching get things done and make firm decisions and commitments to themselves. Coaching is personal, private and all encompassing. It’s a place where someone can be themselves completely. Where they won’t be judged for who they are now or what they say but will find a platform for their thoughts and beliefs. It will allow them to put together a picture of where they are now, look at where they want to be and build a bridge to get there. They have all the answers within them but just need help bringing it all together. As it says in the book, Co-Active Coaching, “people are naturally creative, resourceful and Whole”. Coaching respects that statement and shows people who they really are.

So what are the key reasons people choose Coaching today, the following are just a few examples:

  • People are looking for solutions to problems they may have in work or at home
  • Not keen to use therapy that dwells on what happened in the past as it can be painful
  • Work places are focussing more on Emotional Health of their workforce and use “In House Coaching” as a way of achieving that
  • Parents need help with their ability to parent
  • Students need guidance to realise they actually do have all the answers
  • Executives need someone to listen to them in a place where they can discuss all of the problems they have in a neutral setting – thus enabling them to come up with the answers
  • Career Transition is a situation greatly helped by Coaching

It would be impossible to list all the reasons that people choose Coaching today, as it is an infinite list. Coaching can help in all aspects of a person's life, career, relationships, study, health and happiness.

Finally, as a support intervention, what are the core differentiators that make coaching successful? Unlike other forms of talking therapy, Coaching is all about the Coachee. The Coaching Relationship is a powerful thing! Other forms of ‘therapy spend a lot of time dwelling on the past and how it influences our behaviours today but the approach taken in Coaching is to help the ‘Coachee to believe in themselves and that they already have all the answers. It's also about action. Coaching encourages action. Confidence comes from taking action. Action provides solutions. It's win/win situation.

In Coaching it's the Coachee who designs, builds and undertakes the Agenda. By doing this it makes it real in their eyes and they are much more likely to take ownership of it. The Agenda is very important, as this sets the tone for the relationship. It's devised by looking at the here and now and deciding what the ‘there and then will look like. It helps in designing the bridge between the two and what skills, behaviours and beliefs will be necessary to get to the other side. Understanding all the time that things can change on the journey just as if you were travelling using a map and you encountered road works, you don't cancel your journey, you just find another way around. And who knows, you may find a more scenic route or decide on a different destination altogether.

Coaching is a great tool in helping people to hold a mirror up to themselves and see what others see what skills they have or don't have, what attitude is portrayed to the world, how they react to problems, how much empathy they show to the world etc.

So, in conclusion I am confident in saying that Coaching is a little miracle available to everyone. The Benefits are far reaching. As Chris Wesley says on his website, ‘60% of us hate our jobs yet we spend one third of our lives doing it. If work is making you unhappy then Coaching is a tool to take you to career satisfaction. If you home life is causing you stress or a relationship is difficult and you can't see why or if you just want to understand yourself better, then Coaching is for you. If you need to take stock of your life, set goals for the future and track your progress as you go, then this is provided by Coaching. Coaching is an all-encompassing formula that allows an individual to take a virtual picture of themselves, decide if they like what they see and if not put a plan in place to ‘create the perfect picture of themselves and then become the person in that picture. It may be that they want a career change, write a book, travel the world, get a promotion or just simply to understand themselves better. Whatever the reason, Coaching is going to allow a person to jump off the treadmill of life for a while and concentrate on themselves. It will help them to find the answers inside of themselves and create a unique plan to achieve their personal goal, whatever that may be. There is nothing else like the benefits received from Coaching. There is nothing that allows someone to take an idea, develop it, nurture it and achieve it quite like Coaching does. The fact that Coaching can be done anywhere that suits the Coachee i.e. in a coffee shop, a hotel lobby, walking in the park or just over the phone, makes it accessible to all. And as the world shows no sign of slowing down, Coaching is here to stay and isn’t that a wonderful reassuring thought to finish on.

Thank you for reading.

Angela Brophy

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Feb 19

”Here it is at last”….. a very short post!

By Angela Brophy | Career Coaching , Executive Coaching , Life Coaching , Personal Developement

Hello there on this wet, grey Winter afternoon…

But in saying that, from my window I can see the pink buds of the cherry blossom trees starting to make their annual appearance …. within a short time my garden will be a sea of pink!

Why am I telling you this, well it just reminds me that life is all about how you look at things… you need to search for the colour, even though it’s not always easy to find!  A bit like my journey to building a website.  There were days when I thought I’d never get it finished. We’ve all been there.  Lots to do and no time to do it… sound familiar? Well you just have to keep going, don’t you?  And I’m a bit of a perfectionist, so wanted it to be just right… so I kept changing bits, discussing it, changing it again and finally had to say, Stop!

My website is now finished! Thank you to all of my clients and colleagues who’ve patiently waited to see it!  Hope you like it and I’d welcome any feedback you may have.

I started Ready2Succeed Coaching to help people just like you… you’ve been searching for a way to make changes in your life or your career for a while now and just don’t know how to get started or you’re just simply feeling a bit ‘stuck’ or ‘stagnant’ in your current situation…

I’m really excited about working with some of you!  It’s probably time for a change in your life because as you know…

‘If nothing changes…. then nothing changes’!

Look forward to meeting you one day.

Have a great weekend and remember to do something nice just for you…. you deserve it after the week you’ve just had!!

Angela 🙂